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Dear Vincent and Karolina

Thank you for taking time to answer me. I have had a strange experience last week. I was with a new woman and I came before I got inside her. I was very embarrassed. Help.

John

Hello John

Thanks for emailing,  We find it interesting that you gave us so few details. We wonder if you are as speedy in everything you do? We really need to know more information from you... Please let us know more information on your situation.

  1. How old are you?

  2. Is this the first time this has happened?

  3. We need to know more about what actually happened... tell us more about your experience with this new woman... How did you build up to sex? was it planned etc.

  4. Then what did you do after you came?

  5. What did you say to your self and to her?

  6. Are you planning to see her again?

  7. Have you had any previous help with this as the problem?

  8. Have you experimented with the solutions we have suggested on our site? (Click here)

  9. Have you any medical conditions?

  10. Finally tell us more of your self... anything you might be interested in telling us.

OK We look forward to hearing from you... please join one of the email schemes and we will be very happy to continue working with you.

Yours

Vincent and Karolina.


Vincent and Karolina's note...

This is a fairly typical email we receive from men who come too quickly, their emails tend to be too quick as well... On the other hand we have received some very, and we do mean very long emails regarding men who cannot manage to ejaculate.


Dear Karolina and Vincent

I would like to come more than once with my lover, I understand this is possible is that true. If so how?

Pete

Hi Pete

Yes it is certainly true that you can come more than once. It is also true that this is easier for women and often as women get older and more experience it becomes quite normal for them to come more than once during love making. It therefore depends on what you mean by your question, and to some extent on your general health and your age.

For example when young men come too quickly we encourage them to enjoy their first orgasm.. even warn their lover... and to use this as the first of the evening  / morning of love making. We then encourage them to focus on giving their lover pleasure and to enjoy that.. it is not unusual that after a short while they are well erect again and ready for another orgasm.

For men it is also something you need to practice and gain experience at, although it is usually much more difficult for men than women. Men will need an increasing level of direct physical stimulation with adequate breaks between stimulation. You can teach your lover to masturbate you, often she  / he will need to be more vigorous with you and may need some encouragement to be that physical with you.

Clearly all that physical stimulation and breaks between will take a lot more time than a few minutes, and therefore prepare to enjoy a long session of love making... for example it is quite possible for a man to reach 3 or more orgasms during a day of love making.

A woman may have 3 orgasms within a few minutes... unfortunately men cannot do that... as the joke goes ... God must be a woman, they have more fun!

OK... let us know how you get on... there may be many other questions and thoughts or this may be raising underlying fears ... for example how you are performing as a lover. Please join the email service and we would be happy to continue exchanging emails with you in order to explore these issues further with you.

Yours

Vincent and Karolina.


Hi Vincent and Karolina

My wife and I are having all sorts of problems... can I tell you about them and may be save my marriage?

Joe

Hello Jo, thanks for your email.

Sure please do tell us your story... we would be very willing to hear from you and to explore with you what might be going wrong and to see if we can figure ways of resolving the conflicts with you.

We look forward to hearing from you.

Vincent and Karolina